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steve14771515•a few seconds ago
I've been using this app for 6 weeks (3 of them on the Premium plan). Below are results so far: Profiles I've seen on Meet: Lots There's daily limit to the number of profiles you can see as they're trying to help you not spend too much time on the app, but Premium increases it. Profiles I've liked: 19 Profiles I've intro'd: 9 An intro is a like and a message combined - you get 1 day on the free plan and 10 a day on premium. Matches (when someone likes you back or replies to your intro): 0 People who've liked my profile: 27 People who have sent an intro: 8 Of the above I liked or replied to 5 so I had 5 'matches'. I'm on premium so it shows you everyone who's liked your profile (it might not on free). Of the 5 matches: 2 'ghosted' after little more than 2 back and forth messages (use emojis) 2 messaged back and forth for a week each (one would have ghosted but finally said that things weren't going anywhere when I sugguested a video chat; the other had had a think and said that things weren't going anywhere and wanted to be honest as too many folk are ghost or are vague about ending chats rather than being honest). 1 messaged back and forth for a week and also had a video chat. Went quiet the following day and it was only after I messaged that evening to say that I enjoyed the video chat that they replied to say that they had enjoyed the messaging and video chat but things weren't going to go forward romantically. How did I feel after 5 rejections? (the last 3 were in the same week): Drained and quite low. Findings: You will be going through profiles, searching (premium has this option) or messaging. It will be time-consuming and can be addictive (the buzz of matching, the back and forth messaging - including what to say back to questions). You might feel that you haven't got anywhere when you've gone through today's profiles on Meet and no one has jumped out at you. There will be highs (thinking that a match is going to go somewhere) and lows (when someone in a message exchanges ghosts or ends it and you ask yourself what was the point of all that time messaging back and forth for nearly a week or even thinking about the person). It looks like some folk are on there just to message/chat with folk and when the week's over or the dopahine buzz goes they cast folk loose and move onto someone else. The app folk themselves have said that there are people using this app who aren't going to find a long-term relationship on it (it's a tool to help you meet people you might never have met otherwise). But there are other things that you can do on there such as the Table events. And the dozens of profiles in Meet will show you that you're not the only single christian out there (I'm in the UK and it's opened my eyes, even within my own city). After the last chat-end I decided that I'd spent way too much time, swiping, messaging, searching on the app (it was getting like the old days on another platform) and that it was time to step away from it. It's been lovely not having the dopamine rushes and or the cyclical need to check the daily set of profiles and I now only need to go on there if I get a notification that someone has liked my profile or sent an intro (usually once a week but not sure if this due to premium increasing the profile's visibility). Yes, rejection is part and parcel of these apps but, as a video by the app channel highlights, it's important to take time away from it to refresh, heal, spend time with the Lord and ask Him for His help. Going forwards, the jury's still out for me but perhaps my experience so far might help one or two people.